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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can find him a jobs coach where he can practice the art of interviewing.  I would start looking at some of the autism organizations that may have programs to help with this. Sometimes the local ARCs have things too and anyone can participate.  This article may help you start the search: https://daivergent.com/blog/companies-that-hire-autistic-adults

You may have to act as his job counselor at first and do some of the front end stuff for/with him.

My child with ASD was able to get a job after an college internship.  He may have had a similar experience as your son as he went on several other interviews but received no other offers- just the one from the people that knew him from his internship.  I do not think he interviewed well otherwise. He was a computer engineering major and ASD is somewhat of a stereotype for that major.

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Great suggestions, however, he won't listen to me at all. He refuses to acknowledge that he's autistic. He claims he outgrew it. He'd never take advice from an autism group! He's extremely high functioning intellectually. But socially, he's about at a 17 year old boy level, or lower. He's never had a best friend or a long-term girlfriend.

I'll see if I can find an interviewing coach, but the bigger challenge will be getting him to even see the coach and then listen to their advice!

I've tried to get him to apply to the places where he interned. They seemed to like him a lot. He says he will, but I've seen no evidence of it. Other places where his qualifications and experience seem a fit, will interview him, but in the end, don't want him. I'm guessing it's his lack of interviewing skills, but he told me "it could be anything" and told me I was "just speculating" that his interviewing wasn't going well.

He just submits his resume online. He says he doesn't need a cover letter because his resume lists a job objective. Is this correct? I'm not in a STEM field, but in my field, you always send a cover letter.

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Let me answer this as 1. An adult with asd who was very much stuck after college 2. The wife of an adult with asd and 3. as the mother of asd children, one of whom is nearly an adult:

Kick him out. Your son (like most asd people) is never going to do the things you want him to do because he is very comfortable living on his head instead of in the real world.

You have no real clue if he's actually submitting resumes. The labor pool is very dry right now and I find it improbable that he hasn't been offered a job. I worked in a stem field most of my adult life and soft skills mattered very little. Plenty of extremely awkward people had some how made it through the interview process.

Your son will not do what you tell or suggest to him and likely never will.  The more you carry his weight the longer he will avoid becoming an independent adult.

You are doing him a grand disservice to allow h to continue living in your home. As a mother I realize that is counterintuitive to your intentions but my father had to literally put his house on the market for sale before I got it together and got a job. I then moved across the country had a very successful career and successful children. Had my father not sold the house I would still he living there very contently.[/quote]

I am not op, but I am curious, were you kicked out once you reached adulthood? What about your husband? Is that what you’re planning on doing with your ASD children?

I’m wondering, not sarcastically, do you think your ASD decision is the right one?[/quote]

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