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[quote=Anonymous]OP can be hurt , but that doesn't mean her reasons are valid.

Just because a child may want someone at the birthday party doesn't mean, the parent has to allow it.  Kids do not always  know what is best for them.
It's also completely fine for the friend to want to spend time with her parents alone without OP.
I am also not going to rule the friend to be  a user. I think she may have genuinely valued OP's friendship at the time for herself and her kids, people generally don't make someone a godparent for some reason. She now wants to back off from that relationship. Just going by what OP  has shared here I think it's because she find  OP intrusive, perhaps her kids behave differently when  OP is around perhaps OP crossed the line when it comes to parenting decisions etc. and she's  trying to establish some firmer boundaries with OP.

As for OP herself who says her kids are in college I think she's avoiding dealing with her own feelings of  sadness and having an empty nest by perhaps coming too involved and invested in  her friend's life.

In either case it's time to step back.  If the kids call, take their calls. It's fine to send cads for birthdays or make calls etc. But don't expect to be invited to functions or invite yourself over for functions anymore.[/quote]

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