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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]HE probably thought this was a once in a lifetime opportunity to do something wonderful for you. He didn't tell you because he wanted to be sure the offer was accepted first. He thought you would love the house and didn't want you to be disappointed if it didn't work out.[/b] Should he have done it without consulting you? of course not. But at this point I think it's better to focus on his good intentions, and give the house a chance. There's a good chance that he's right and this is a great house for your family.[/quote]

That’s a lot of assumptions.  He would need to know that his spouse would prefer to be surprised with a six-seven figure purchase/financial commitment rather than being disappointed that an offer isn’t accepted.  I don’t even like surprise birthday parties much less surprise housing purchases. There was also a lot of 1950’s Father Knows Best wrapped up in that statement.  Would you make that same statement if the genders were reversed that the DW “ knew he would love the house and wanted to shield him from disappointment if it didn’t work out”.   If you explicitly concede decision making authority in an area, that fine.  That doesn’t sound like that’s what happened here so you have to ask, did DH make the unilateral decision for spouse, or did he do it for himself because he had the time between the seeing the house, writing the offer, and waiting to hear if it was accepted to have clued in DW and chose  not to.[/quote]

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