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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a woman in this age range and I completely disagree with most of the posters here.

I think having a companion and partner is one of the greatest joys of life, and definitely worth seeking. It doesn’t have to be a marriage, but the intimacy of a relationship with a man gives me so much more than the friendship that I have with women.

I think women’s declining libido is mostly related to their boredom with their spouse. The impact of menopause and sex drive is overrated, and closely related to women’s boredom.  I know many menopausal women who have active sex lives, and the ones who do are into their partners or dating.

Sex and intimacy with a partner is so, so much better than with yourself. Sorry it is just so much better than doing it solo.

Relationships bring a lot of disappointments and heartbreak. But they are also what make life living for. I have a lot of other things in my life, but I will always want a partner to share my life with.  I’ve been married for 25 years and these are some of my observations.

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You literally "disagree" with people because you have had the opposite experience from most women replying to this thread. Your empathy is missing, I think?  Did you think that your story about your good partner and good marriage would help explain how posters, who are single and divorced, feel? Or was just an excuse to brag? Weird. Yes, masturbation is different from sex. Its as different from sex with a new partner/dating in midlife, as your sex with your husband of 25 years is too, so lets not compare apples to apples when you urge women to feel like second class citizens for enjoying masturbating, as that just pushes shame and drives women back into bad relationships. [/quote]

+1 The PP's comment is not at all helpful. She has a completely different experience. And apparently, she can't imagine other people's lives. Of course she things relationships are worth living for!!! She has been happily married for 25 years!! However, for many women, relationships have brought awful consquences and were not fulfilling...which is something apparently she can't understand. She should not have posted. [/quote]

Seriously, PP, how could you post something so callous. Obviously sex with the man you married before you were thirty and raised a family with and continue to love is different from women divorced in midlife and dealing with trying to form something whole from the broken pieces that are out there to work with. Congratulations on being happy now go back to your completely irrelevant to this discussion reality.[/quote]

Sheesh. This website needs a bitter divorced women self help forum. Anyone -- man or woman -- who doesn't think men are terrible and marriage is nothing but a drag gets the old bitters are riled up and out in force.

Yes, the PP was disagreeing with all the people who say that relationships are not worth it and that self love is an adequate substitute. That's the subject of thread. She is not required to empathize with people who made bad relationship choices.[/quote]

OP is not divorced… are you in the right thread?[/quote]

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