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[quote=Anonymous]Latina here married to a white guy.

If I want DH to change his mind or do something and I know his mother will agree with my side, I mention it to her. She doesn’t rat on me but leans on him to do it. And she is like a dog with a bone, so eventually he gives in. If it involves needing more support, she will also offer to him to help out.

I usually only do this for serious issues, like when DH isn’t getting a medical checkup recommended by his doctor, but my point is that my MIL has a very different levers she can use to nudge DH to change or act. She doesn’t see it as taking my side, but rather that she is now aware of a situation which concerns her, and she is motivated to act herself.

The ugly side of this is when MIL wants DH to do something I don’t want him to do, and pushes and pushes. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t a positive side.

Maybe OP can offer to pay for individual therapy for her daughter or babysit and give them date nights. It should not be a confrontation and then tattling that her SIL told her their marriage sucks. [/quote]

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