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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a child at UVA who has struggled with mental health issues.

To be perfectly blunt, some reasonable accommodations are appropriate. But there comes a time where if a student is that dramatically incapacitated, they need to withdraw until they can function again. And also, you cannot allow someone with mental illnesses to use it as a crutch.

There are limits to accommodations. At some point, there have to be natural consequences, and they may not always be pleasant.

I mean, in the work world there will be limits to tolerance for this behavior.[/quote]

+1 you can’t lower your standards. If people aren’t up to it, for one reason or another, they need to make choices.

Perhaps relatedly, this is why I hate people trying to get into the “best“ ppossible school – sometimes people are better off being higher up the food chain at a school a step down. [/quote]

PP here — I say this as someone who has worked in academic environments, and as someone who has two DSs,  one who is at the tippy top school and can handle it, and one who is doing well but consciously chose a school a step down. [/quote]

Yep!  My older child is quite capable but went to a pressure cooker high school and intentionally stepped down for college.  She went somewhere intellectual but not T20 and not a pressure cooker.  She has almost all A’s now (in her soon year).  She feels stimulated by the environmentbut not overwhelmed or feeling the need to compete. She is doing what she loves and learning to learn, not to get A’s.  Beat choice ever![/quote]
Where does your DD attend? After seeing my DD struggle this year (first real year of high school and all the stress it entails), I definitely think a nurturing college (*gasp* even a CTCL!) would be best for her. No high pressure college.[/quote]

She goes to Smith, which I know as an all women’s college is not for everyone.  I would think most smaller, LAC are similar.  I have been so impressed with her classes and how much she loves the meaning environment.  She regularly attends office hours for certain professors just to say hi and chat about the class topics.  She is so engaged.[/quote]
Thank you![/quote]

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