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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP how old are you? If this is “settle down” time, have a hard conversation with yourself and ask what priority you place on:
homeownership
the ability to stay home with your children for a period of time
private schools/ funded college for your children
Travel/more expensive activities 
early retirement

If none of those things are particularly important to you, there is no reason not to date someone with lower earning power. If any of those things is extremely important to you, you should not date someone who can’t support at least half of the lifestyle you’re looking for— ideally more if you want to be a SAHM.  Most people here upset that their spouses don’t earn solid salary are upset because they weren’t honest with themselves (and often their partners!) about what they wanted at the outset.

If you’re just looking for fun, no reason to rule these men out, but also do not lead them on. [/quote]

I am in my 30s but not desperate to settle down, Ive been married and divorced and have 1 child so have zero pressure to remarry or have more children. I’m  perfectly happy with my current life, open to dating and more under the right circumstances but only want to bring a man long term if he’s going to add to my life. I make over $200k so I know i might not find someone who makes that much, but I’d suspect that someone who is in their late 30’s, early 40s and have had a decent career progression should at least make around $100k, unless they are in a low paying field driven by their passion i-e nonprofit/teaching ect and i’d be ok with that as long as they are driven. I think the biggest hangup I have is ambition/drive. I’d like to think that if someone was a UPS driver , that they’d figure out how to get extra training on the job, six sigma or other opportunities to be a regional UPS manager or other things to develop their career. I think it would be challenging for me not to see this drive and wanting to grow from someone satisfied at just being a delivery person. I asked him if he was happy with his job and his response was just ‘ pays the bills’ [/quote]

OK, then you’re best off not dating this man. [/quote]

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