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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree to keep an eye on it.

Here’s the deal - the only way to keep our weight in check is to watch what we eat & exercise. That applies to grown women and it applies to 11 year olds.  I wish we lived in a magic world where we didn’t have to put effort into it. For some lucky girls and women, you don’t! For the rest of us, we have to, and it doesn’t equate to an eating disorder. It’s just the cold hard truth of staying in shape. If she seems confident and happy with herself and without any OCD tendencies, then I would feel reassured. [/quote]

This is true for adults, but I don't think it's appropriate for 11 year olds to be thinking about six pack abs and weight/diet/fitness. They still have baby fat, for god-sakes. [/quote]

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What OP's daughter is doing is not even true for many adults. Pretty much all of my skinny friends and adults eat everything; they just eat in moderation. It those of us(myself included) who are addicted to food who have to cut out certain things completely.

[b]An 11 year old cutting out sugars[/b] (or certain types of food that she enjoys) completely because she cannot stop if she has a taste is a [b]huge red flag.[/b] It's huge enough to see a therapist. [/quote]

You need to read Robert Lustig's books. There is absolutely no redeeming quality in table sugar and it can act like a drug in the brain. Some people are set off by it to want more, more, more. It is a sad state of affairs when the obesity rates are sky high, fattly liver disease is going up big time among kids and someone thinks a tween deciding she is done with table sugar is bad. OP didn't say she won't eat fruit, which has sugar in it's natural form and vitamins and fiber.

I also have to side eye only allowing a tween to exercise a certain way. Lacrosse or swimming is fine, but exercise videos are a huge red flag. Seriously people? Let her exercise. It's not like she is doing for 2 hours. Get a grip. [/quote]

She most definitely eats fruits.  There are some junky snacks she will eat. She's an excellent baker, and if she bakes something, she will eat it.  She told me she's planning to bake this weekend (doesn't know what, probably something long and complicated and 'aesthetic').  Mostly, she seems to be keeping herself from eating things that come in a bag, and not so much stuff we make at home.   [/quote]

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