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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$20k bathroom renovation for a $300k condo makes no financial sense absent other compelling facts that indicate she could recoup enough to make her time and investment worthwhile.  I think OP rightfully is concerned about his girlfriend’s judgment in dumping good money that she most likely will not recoup into renovations that neither of them will get to enjoy.  He is wondering why someone would do something that is illogical.  Is it based on ego (she wants to put her best foot forward in the sale photos and hear everyone say how gorgeous her condo is) or perhaps fixation (she’s sucked into the renovation process and is having trouble controlling her spending).  The girlfriend is getting defensive saying that OP is not being supportive, but maybe she’s getting defensive because she knows OP is on to something but she plows forward with the overspending anyway.

OP, her pattern does not bode well for living together and combining your financial future.  If you live together you are going to have to be prepared for her buying pricey stuff for your home that you probably don’t need, and she will get defensive if you can’t understand how cute/functional/classy that thing is, or that she had a bad day and is entitled to the purchase, or whatever the excuse may be.  You both need to get on the same page about this, or else you’ll have a lot of frustration, and possibly debt.    [/quote]

I assure you that even if there were compelling factors to justify the renovation, OP would never admit it because he is more invested in being right than in having a healthy relationship with his girlfriend.[/quote]

Bull shit! You are just one of the certain type of women who posts here who makes out the woman to be right and the victim at all costs

Her behavior is completely inappropriate. Yes ops communication may need fine-tuning, but that doesn't excuse the girlfriend who is out of line and needs to grow up[/quote]
She’s completely out of line for wanting to make her own decisions about her own home? Do you hear yourself?[/quote]

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