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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

DS is a gem at Sunday school, his classes, and with his peers. He’s generally friendly and listens well when on play dates.

With us:
-“I’m not putting on my shoes because you didn’t do X when I asked you to do it”.

He’s VERY disrespectful to us. I would’ve gotten my butt walloped for talking how he does.

-“you said ‘come up for dinner’ and dinner isn’t even on the table!”

Again, just simply rude in a way that isn’t appropriate I don’t think.

-fusses/tantrums/meltdowns: “Larla is ALWAYS first on her bike” screams, stomps feet

We went to see a family friend yesterday and he didn’t like the small gift she gave him so he threw it and screamed.

I know exactly what “Instagram parenting” is, and yeah we’ve done it. It clearly doesn’t work for this kid.

We need rules and boundaries but nothing works.

Also, yes, we are playing the long game. I don’t like my parents. They were overseers and didn’t engage with us. I want a relationship with my child, forever. But I also don’t want him to be a brat.[/quote]

That sounds awful. He already is a brat.  Do better. [/quote]

Agree with this, yikes.  You need to rethink rules and boundaries.  A 6 year old doesn't need the pressure of making all decisions, you should make rules for them and let them control a small part of their world until they're capable of controlling more.  He probably does well in Sunday school and other areas because there are more rules and that's what a 6 year old needs.

For the the manners part, we have a rule in our house that you ask nicely the first time, or it's an automatic no to whatever you're asking.  For example:
Kid: Get my milk
Me: Try again
Kid: May I please have some milk?
Me: Good job, that's much nicer, but no you cannot have milk now because you didn't ask correctly the first time.  Think before you speak to others.

Are they doing chores?  Demand better and you'll get better.  Good luck![/quote]

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