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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.   DS is a gem at Sunday school, his classes, and with his peers. He’s generally friendly and listens well when on play dates.

With us   -“I’m not putting on my shoes because you didn’t do X when I asked you to do it”.

He’s VERY disrespectful to us. I would’ve gotten my butt walloped for talking how he does.

-“you said ‘come up for dinner’ and dinner isn’t even on the table!”

Again, just simply rude in a way that isn’t appropriate I don’t think.   -fusses/tantrums/meltdowns: “Larla is ALWAYS first on her bike” screams, stomps feet

We went to see a family friend yesterday and he didn’t like the small gift she gave him so he threw it and screamed.

I know exactly what “Instagram parenting” is, and yeah we’ve done it. It clearly doesn’t work for this kid.   We need rules and boundaries but nothing works.   Also, yes, we are playing the long game. I don’t like my parents. They were overseers and didn’t engage with us. I want a relationship with my child, forever. But I also don’t want him to be a brat.[/quote]

Oh honey. I think you've gotten confused somewhere along the way and now you're paying the price for it in a big way.  Kids LIKE rules and boundaries. Not intellectually, but they make kids feel safe and secure. Your son is six - he should be helping with dinner. Setting the table, getting out the drinks, whatever.  When he screamed and threw a small gift a friend gave, he needed to be taken out of wherever he was, given a STERN talking to about how his behavior was completedy unacceptable, and we will stand there until he is ready to go back in, apologize and behave appropriately.  When he complains someone else is first on their bike, rephrase for him.  "You wanted to be first; it seems like Larla always wins the imaginary race you're having in your head and that doesn't feel fair." [/quote]

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