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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm a previous pp with ADHD I am also a woman. Also highly intelligent, and working in a field that requires a high level of focus. I function okay at work, but it literally zaps all my energy and all my focus so that it's nearly impossible for me to get things done at home.

I am very fortunate that I have a spouse who doesn't expect me to be Susie Homemaker and is capable of other tasks.  There's plenty I do around the house. Lists and reminders help. Groceries are a struggle for me even with a list. [/quote]

But do you get nearly every item on the list wrong or botched up like OP’s wife does?  Milk is a good example.  The 2% has a different color label or cap compared to the skim. If you’re buying your milk at the same store week after week, you are going to notice the color of the cap.  A two year old could figure out that one.  You seem sincere; however, from OP’a description I’m not buying that his wife is an unfortunate victim of adhd, overwork, or an unsympathetic husband.  [/quote]

I’m the immediate PP and wanted to add that OP’s wife may be racheting down expectations for housework to make herself seem so unreliable or difficult (but in a victimy way that OP should feel some guilt about) so that OP just gives up and does this stuff himself and makes it look like it was OP’s idea that all the housework rests in his shoulders.  [/quote]

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