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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he speak her native language?[/quote]

This is my question. If she doesn't speak english he must speak her language so that they can communicate, right?

Otherwise...how does he know he even likes her?[/quote]

Exactly, apparently, he knows enough about her to want to move in with her for them to initially agree to engagement after 1 year of dating, seems like involved conversations are happening somehow. How are they communicating, OP?[/quote]

He’s a native Spanish speaker.[/quote]

Totally different from the scenario you initially painted in your OP   He's a big boy OP, and since he's done this type of thing before maybe this is what he wants or maybe he needs to learn a lesson without you and his sister trying to fix things for him.[/quote]

It’s not a different picture. Since he does have a history of doing this, coupled with that she needs citizenship is why I am concerned. I didn’t say I wanted to fix it.[/quote]

Is your friend generally stupid ? Does he usually  depend on you to  figure out the   problems in various decisions? Has he ever altered his behavior because you said something?[/quote]

Yes, yes, and yes. With the last girlfriend (moved her and her child in after months) I kept my mouth shut. She got upset because he was dancing with our boss at a company event, she got angry and she hid in the bathroom. He had me ho retrieve her. I spoke up then (didn’t say to break up with her). At the same time his previous ex who also has kids and was engaged to another man wanted to get back with him. He was conflicted between the current gf and the ex gf and constantly asked for advice. He usually comes to me with all of his issues. [/quote]

And now we're back to you being to involved in his relationships...  You need to let him figure this one out for himself. He's a big boy.[/quote]

He went to her for advice and even asked her to physically go handle an issue in his relationship. She didn’t insert herself or give anything unsolicited. He’s clearly not a big boy. Age doesn’t equate to maturity. [/quote]

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