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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS is 7. When he was born, I was pressured into giving him a family middle name. I did not dislike the name at the time, but felt really stressed by the pressure and also just overwhelmed in general while pregnant. I basically gave him the name to avoid conflict with other people, but I felt not great about it from the start.

As a result, he's never really gone by this middle name at all. I put it on paperwork when I need to, but otherwise we don't use it anywhere. He's never asked about his middle name and doesn't know he has one.

Recently I have been seized with the desire to change it. I have another one picked out -- it's a name that suits him perfectly, goes with his first and last name, and has important meaning for me.

Is this insane? I would discuss it with him first and if he didn't want the name, we wouldn't do it.[b] But if he is up for it, it would bring me a lot of happiness[/b]. I feel like I messed up in not giving him a middle name that was more of a legacy/gift, something that would help him know how beloved he is. He'll have the name the rest of his life (unless of course he decided to change it) and I want it to be a good one, instead of this nothing name I put on his birth certificate because I couldn't handle another argument with my mom about it right after giving birth.

Thoughts?[/quote]
You sound very selfish. Please don't put your seven year old through this for your own personal joy. It's HIS name now, not yours.[/quote]

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