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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure what happened. Some of it, I'm sure, is normal. I know that the "sizzle" fades over time (we've been together 3 years), but if I'm only getting that "head turning" feeling toward my girlfriend 1 in 25 days that bothers me a lot.[b] In the beginning of the relationship I wouldn't say I had instant 10/10 attraction to her either. But because she was so enthusiastic sexually AND we got along really well in the personality and overall compatibility department, I fell for her.[/b] But over time as she's lost interest in sex to a more natural baseline and gotten more "comfortable" (i.e., sweatpants at home on a regular basis) the formula that worked to keep up the attraction in the first 6 months or so is gone. Bottom line is I feel terrible but my head doesn't turn for her anymore and I feel guilty about it and sad.

On the one hand if we break up won't this possibly happen again with someone else?

On the other hand it seems worse to live this way.

If I do break up with her, what is the most gentle way to do it? I don't want to be an @ss. I do love this woman and I do not want to hurt her. But I don't want to live a lie. And I don't want to try and "change" her or make her feel inadequate.[/quote]

So it sounds like you don’t think she;s that hot, but she compensated with “enthusiastic” “uninhibited sex” and dressing to the nines. That’s not going to continue forever.

OP, what happens when you date a woman you ARE attracted to initially? Are these woman in your league?[/quote]

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