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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Givers and takers. People who are pushy and entitled are takers. Givers want others to be happy and give in.

It’s a gradual thing. Most normal people want to be polite, accommodating to others and feel if someone if making a huge deal out of something.it’s so important to them that they can give in. They do start saying no and no thank you after getting tired of it but then the taker will become distraught, keep badgering. The giver may decide the path of least resistance is to just give in to MIL, aunt or whomever. Takers often love drama so they will welcome a dramatic fight over their demand. Givers don’t want the drama of fighting over something stupid.

Givers eventually will have had enough and draw the boundaries. They’ll have to devote energy to constantly holding the boundaries and deal with the onslaught of manipulation. It’s a PITA and some may just decide to limit contact.[/quote]

Well said!  I am the OP of the DH wants to host rude relatives thread.

Takers *depend* on givers, and a known giver is "money in the bank" to a taker. So, the taker tries to wear the giver down.  Depending on the history between the two, it might not take much - and that is what the takers depend on.

It is exhausting to see it in action, and so predictable.  The takers resort to anything, it seems.[/quote]

I didn't respond on your thread but I will respond here ...  My take-away from your posts is that you're very insecure.  Everything has to be your way or no one can have it any other way.  I don't know why you're so easily threatened; however, it saddens me that you only seem happy when you force someone else to stand down.  Learn to flex a little.  It won't kill you.[/quote]

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