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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice to you is: do not file for divorce. Do not separate. Let him know how much he has hurt and is hurting you. Remind him that he loves his children and what the long term effects of this will be on them. If you have daughters, as him if he wants them to end up as other women vs have healthy marriages as adults. Remind him that it is never between just the parents and the children sense what’s amiss and it affects their development. Remind him that the OW by definition has low self esteem and is putting up a brave front to lure him away; and that she is much more damaged now as a result of being an AP that she was when he made her one. But don’t talk about her too much. Focus on what this will do to your life, that he swore to protect; to his professional reputation; to his integrity, and to your kids. [/quote]

Thank you. 7:16 again. I don't know what to do - I don't want to be a fool. I don't want to end things quickly but seeing my DH cry for me and cry for her is disturbing.  I don't think I'll ever have his full loyalty and trust. I fear he will always miss her and long for her, and that if he stays with me, it's just for financial stability and the kids.[/quote]

I completely understand where you are with this. Do not second guess whether you are being a fool. He is the fool. You are just the witness. Standing up for your marriage and your life with him is not foolish. Above all do not give up because of what is happening acutely. It could take a long time but he can get back to you.

I know a couple who both got cancer in turns after his affair. First her, then him. You would think hers would have been the wake up call but no, he was still conflicted. But once he got sick and she was there for him and their kids, you can bet he got his head on straight again after many years. [b]This took more than ten years to play out. [/b]Men can be unbelievably selfish.[/quote]

Were these folks like fundamentalist Christians who don't believe in divorce. She gave up TEN YEARS of her life waiting for him to pick her? For the love of God, lady, that's not a positive story. It's a cautionary tale about why OP should kick the bum out now. [/quote]

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