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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just wonder if kids and working moms are doable.  Seems like the husbands just don't get it.

I worked for 20 years.  Had our child at 40 and stopped working.  Being a SAHM is really hard!

No easy answers. [/quote]

It is doable. I have 3 children, two oldest are already in college.  I always worked.  I bring in a good income too, as much or more than my husband.

But, from the very beginning, something like this - "helping me out" - would be a grave offense.  Imagine you found out your husband is sleeping with a co-worker from time to time, what would you say?  This is what I would say for "helping out".  Initially, my husband was shocked, he grew up with a SAHM. I told him that if he is not stepping up, I am leaving and insisting on 50/50 custody.  And I mean 50/50, for his 50, he'll be on his own 100%.  And this will be the end of his career, because it involves working evenings and weekends; he'll have to find something less exciting.  So, as I showed him, [b]he does not really have a choice[/b] of whether he is raising his kid, the only choice is whether he does it with me or on his [b]own[/b].

When the online learning started for school and all the activities, my husband signed up for all the online accounts, installed whatever was needed on HIS devices, etc.  I do not get any school communications.  The kid knows - any issue with school, choir, etc, go ask your father.   I have enough managing the household stuff.   [/quote]

So, "doable" but thoroughly unpleasant.[/quote]. I was thinking if he finds an affair partner/future stepmom, wouldn't he hit the ground running in terms of splitting childcare?[/quote]

That’s a temporary fix though. Eventually the new girlfriend will want her own baby and then he’ll back to square one. 
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