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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just wonder if kids and working moms are doable.  Seems like the husbands just don't get it.

I worked for 20 years.  Had our child at 40 and stopped working.  Being a SAHM is really hard!

No easy answers. [/quote]

It is doable. I have 3 children, two oldest are already in college.  I always worked.  I bring in a good income too, as much or more than my husband.

But, from the very beginning, something like this - "helping me out" - would be a grave offense.  Imagine you found out your husband is sleeping with a co-worker from time to time, what would you say?  This is what I would say for "helping out".  Initially, my husband was shocked, he grew up with a SAHM. I told him that if he is not stepping up, I am leaving and insisting on 50/50 custody.  And I mean 50/50, for his 50, he'll be on his own 100%.  And this will be the end of his career, because it involves working evenings and weekends; he'll have to find something less exciting.  So, as I showed him, he does not really have a choice of whether he is raising his kid, the only choice is whether he does it with me or on his own.

When the online learning started for school and all the activities, my husband signed up for all the online accounts, installed whatever was needed on HIS devices, etc.  I do not get any school communications.  The kid knows - any issue with school, choir, etc, go ask your father.   I have enough managing the household stuff.   [/quote]

So, "doable" but thoroughly unpleasant.[/quote]

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