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Reply to ""the victim of the affair is not always the victim of the marriage""
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like victim-blaming bullshit to me. NO amount of "indifference or emotional unavailability" or anything else justifies an affair. You want out, GET A DIVORCE.[/quote] When I read that line above it is clear, and has nothing to do with justifying an affair. You can be the victim of the infidelity (which is to say, the infidelity is NOT OK, and if I cheated, my spouse would be the victim, I was simply wrong to cheat) but your place in the marriage may NOT be the victim (which is to say, my spouse, even though cheated upon, has his role in our marriage which may be aggressor, may be emotional abuser, may be cold, quiet, and indifferent, may be the perpetrator of all things bad in the marriage. And I, as a person in that marriage, also play my role. Which may or may not be related to my stepping out). [/quote]
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