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[quote=Anonymous]This raises red flags for me - asking to essentially change the hours on the first day? When you’ll have no advance notices on days she will be early or late? That is ballsy. I would have told her that it’s fine today, but generally you expect her from 9-5. She doesn’t have to come into your house directly from the subway - she can walk around the block, read, go get a cup of coffee etc. Did you ask if she has the flexibility to stay late on occasion? There may be times when you are running late and she is stuck there even if she has plans, so hopefully the flexibility runs both ways. I don’t think what you are doing while she is there is relevant. You don’t need to have a job to justify using a nanny. I am a SAHM and have hired many part time sitters for a variety of reasons - taking my special needs child to appts where I couldn’t bring siblings, volunteering, running errands without dragging the kids around, or just so I could relax and sleep during a difficult pregnancy. I wanted someone to come two full days a week so I could schedule dentist appts, lunch with friends, etc far in the future knowing I would have a sitter at home all day every Tuesday and Thursday. I made the mistake of telling the first sitter that I was flexible and it was no big deal that she was a little late on the first day, I didn’t have any set plans for that first morning. She took that flexibility and ran with it. She would sometimes show up an hour early if she had stayed at her boyfriend’s house nearby (she didn’t ask to leave early but did mark the extra time down so I paid her) and sometimes she would be an hour or two past her ‘start’ time if she went out the night before or stayed at home, which was a longer drive away. I didn’t really need her earlier because I was dropping kids off at school, so I would pay her just for sitting on my door step waiting for me to get home! It got to the point that I would have to let her know when I had a specific appointment to ensure she would be there that time, which defeated the purpose of me having set child care every week instead of booking sitters for each individual appointment! I spoke with her several times about being on time and her set hours, but she kept being late so we had to let her go. Looking back, if I had been strict about the hours from the get go, her inability to be on time would have been evident much earlier and I would have let her go right away instead of dealing with it for months and months. [/quote]
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