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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.[/quote]

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.[/quote]

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??[/quote]

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP.  :lol:  Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.[/quote]

I've had cable guys give me their numbers to text if I have more issues. In no way do I think they are hitting on me. Come on, some of you are not nearly as fabulous as you think you are. I'm not fabulous, I just think they are doing their jobs and trying to get me to give them 5 stars or whatever on a customer survey review so they can win a prize.[/quote]

Not to press a point, but did the cable guys also offer to be your guide to the local attractions? That was the point that pushed me into "huh, I think he is hitting on me."[/quote]

Sure it happens, rarely, but if this happens all the time i doubt you are reading the situation correctly. A lot of the so called examples have been pretty dubious. Also if a guy is that quick to hit on you, you are definitely not the only one he’s doing that with. Avoid.[/quote]

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