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[quote=Anonymous]I've posted here already but am looking at all these other posters insulting OP and just wanted to add that I've only had one baby and really wanted a girl.  i got a girl but if it had been a boy I think I would have been sad.  There are things a mom will do with a girl that she just won't do with a boy, ways they will relate with one another.  My daughter just got her first period a few months ago and that was a uniting moment between us I wouldn't have had with a boy.

If you only get to have one child and had a sort of secret list of things you wanted to go through with them, I can totally understand how having a child of the other gender could totally confound that desired wishlist.  Never getting to put your daughter in a frilly dress, or put them in pigtails, or talk about girl stuff or the weird friendship dynamics that girls have at school, or whatever.

Sometimes parenting helps you heal your own wounds from when you were a child, and you almost relive your own girlhood in a way as your daughter goes through hers.  Not sure if folks will know what I mean or relate at all, but as my daughter goes through social problems at school and other issues, I relate her experiences to my own problems as a child to help her try to find solutions if she wants my advice, and it gives me more perspective on what I went through when I was a kid.  My kid is a lot different from me but we still had some of the same problems, and I think they would have been really different if my kid had been a boy.  I'm not sure this is what OP is getting at at all and I'm sure folks will now insult me for being crazy and a terrible mother, but these are some of the things I thought about when I was pregnant and didn't know what my baby's gender was.

Anyway, OP, I get you and I don't really think anything is wrong with you, I also really wanted a particular gender.  I think you should talk out loud to somebody about this, I do find that sometimes saying the words out loud makes them lose some of their power over me.  Don't mind the mean posters in here.  Good luck![/quote]

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