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[quote=Anonymous]I’d have said no to the week’s trip without me  and I’d have said “hell no” to a trip where he was essentially going with another woman single or otherwise. How that came to be wouldn’t matter, I’d eat the loss on the house and tell the kids “mommies and daddies don’t take trips with members of the opposite sex.. it looks bad even if it isn’t or shouldn’t”.  If eating the loss isn’t something you can stomach (yes I know I had to go there) then you as his wife needs to be more willing and able to go on these trips, or the two of you don’t book trips unless you both can go.  I “get” not having as much vacation time, but isn’t there enough he could do with the kids in your local area while yo’re at work to keep everybody happy?

It isn’t controlling to state clearly what you want/need in a marriage.  Saying “I’m not a fan of you hanging out with another woman” is hardly unreasonable.. it’s not like you’re telling him he can’t ever eat chicken again.

You will never know what your husband did or didn’t do on this trip and who he did or didn’t do anything with.  You have to decide if you can and want to live with it.  If you do live with it, be nice, but do set down some rules for your marriage.  Tell him you don’t want him socializing with other women unless you are there. Obviously if the kids play soccer and they have a female coach, your husband will need to talk with her, but he shouldn’t need to text her, not unless you are included on the string. He shouldn’t be eating meals or staying at houses with other women, it looks and feels too coupply.

Trust your instincts not what this board is telling you.  Having said what I’ve just said, I do know men-women pairings that function more like siblings.  Make sure that your sensors are configured properly.. if he mentions a g-rated story a female coworker told him are you upset or do you think “that was a pretty good story?”

Finally, if you feel you can’t or shouldn’t talk to the other woman, or your husband says “please don’t bring her into this, it would embarrass me” I’d seriously look into a divorce.  Your comfort and well-being need to be and should always be his top priority.  Everybody you interact with should be able to tell who is married to who when they see you.

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