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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Threats of divorce, not veiled, are pretty abusive, basically they are the nuclear option in a marital disagreement.[/quote]

+1.

OP, these other PPs are missing the point. Your DH and you don't know how to communicate.

It's pretty clear that your DH gets anxious when you bring up conversations that are very important/very heavy. So his lame strategy is to avoid, avoid, procastinate the conversation.

And you are anxious too. So your strategy is to threaten with divorce. You guys should have been in therapy a long time ago. And you should go to therapy if you want to stay. If you don't want to stay, leave. Stop threatening divorce left and right. How many times have you threatened him with divorce already? You are trying to be manipulative, and it is having the opposite effect of what you intended.

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More likely she’s trying different things to get him to respond normally. Shock tactic doesn’t work.

And perhaps it’s not a threat.  She knows inside that his stonewalling and lack of verbal communication skills are damaging the relationship, marriage and future.

He sounds on the spectrum and won’t ever communicate well. Among other deficits.

Unwind this marriage stat.[/quote]

So she is seeking a "normal" response by behaving "abnormally". .. We can all see how that is working out for her. Yes, his stonewalling, lack of verbal communication skills are damaging the relationship. So are her meaningless threats.[/quote]

It’s not a threat.

She knows that whenever she says something important or that she’s hurting or that XYZ needs talking through and he refuses to discuss the issue at hand, there is no relationship. Certainly not a life partner relationship. What his underlying issue is doesn’t matter, he’s defective as a person. Stop blaming Op, she needs to get stronger and divorce. There is no future with this type. [/quote]

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