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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That sounds insane to me. I do timeouts, but they're in the kid's room and they can come out whenever they want as long as they are ready to be calm and kind. It's intended as an emotional reset, not some sort of ritualistic humiliation. [/quote]

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all kids are different. my child with behavioral issues HATES to be alone - sending him to his room is impossible and the process of getting him there just makes the discipline process into a power struggle instead of a brief, swift consequence.  and, in many cases, the kid actually needs a punishment instead of an "emotional reset."  agree that the punishment should not be designed to be humiliating, but it has to be some kind of unpleasant to work.  in general parents far over-estimate how unpleasant it needs to be.  but OP's timeout facing the wall doesn't seem that off to me.  [/quote]

Kids don't need punishments. They really don't. You don't have to intentionally make life unpleasant just for the sake of making it more unpleasant in order to be a good parent. Your job as a parent isn't to coax a particular behavior out of a child, its to provide a good environment and lots of love so they can have a safe space to find their way in the world. This often means not letting them do something they would want to do, but that's just a natural consequence of life, not a punishment imposed by the parent.

I don't know how well I'm explaining this but lots of parenting books talk about discipline v. punishment.[/quote]

1000% agree. This technique is designed to humiliate and shame, not to teach. What is the logical consequence of the action that is leading to the nose on the wall time out? Impose the logical consequence, not the humiliating requirement ot stand in a corner with a nose to the wall. [/quote]

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