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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a classic example of Askers vs. Guessers:

https://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2010/05/askers-vs-guessers/340891/

I would be fine with being asked, and I would also not hesitate to say no if I didn't want to do it. I do think this is a high likelihood "no" scenario. But to me, why not ask if the couple wants to go out for drinks? It's an invitation, not a dunning notice. You just have to completely accept any version of no for an answer. [/quote]

Because it puts them on the spot and not everyone is comfortable saying no to their fiancé’s sister who they have never even met. It’s rude to put someone on the spot. Unless you know for SURE they are fine saying no. And this sister has never met the bride so she doesn’t know.

And even if you know they’re fine with saying no- don’t ask such a ridiculous request anyways!!! Still rude! It’s like a grown man asking his kids 18 year old babysitter if she wants to give him a blow job. Even if he is fine with hearing “no”, that’s still not an appropriate thing to do and will leave quite the lasting impression.

This scenario is similar but, clearly, on a lesser scale.[/quote]

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