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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don't get why some posters are being so harsh[/b]. OP is not being dramatic. Families have issues, sisters have dynamics and jealousy exists between people whether one choses to ignore it or not. I don't understand how some of the posters on this forum can be so socially unidimensional. OP, don't be bothered by these people.

It sounds like your sister is in a tough situation with her marriage. I've seen some really lovely, amazing people become quite nasty and jealous of others while going through marital problems. Try to be compassionate while still maintaining solid lines on how you want her to treat you. If need be you might suggest going to a mediator together. And also keep in mind, you don't ever have to tell her about your pregnancy if you don't feel like it. It's your body and your life-you decide who you are comfortable talking with about it.[/quote]

OP here. Because they're emotionally messed up. Good people don't bash other decent people for no apparent reason. Good people also don't like to intentionally make snarky comments to create online entertainment for themselves. Sad, unhappy, or angry people do that.

I totally understand where these snarky comments are coming from and who they're coming from. I have given no reason other than to anonymously admit that people find me prettier and think me more popular than my sister. That I recognize the difference in the way my sister and I were regarded isn't a reason to dislike my post or me.  That's your issue, not mine. I did have more dates and people commented on my appearance a lot. That's nothing I earned, its just the way it was, fair or not. That's the beauty of anonymous forums; one can admit to things one doesn't admit in person for the sake of telling the truth and receiving honest advice. If anyone has been a jealous TTC woman before they're not going to like my post either because it shames them too. So this post is going to bring the claws out with these women too. But again, sorry to tell the truth but TTC women can indeed be very envious of women who have no fertility issues. I'm sorry for their plight of infertility but not empathetic at all with their envy.

For the record, I am an attractive person who just became pregnant with her third baby after the first try.  You came on here asking for advice and now you are dismissing everyone's words, because you don't like what you are hearing.  I agree, snarkiness is bad, but a lot of snarkiness comes out when the OP is blatantly naive to her own issues.  I've said it before and I'll say it again, you keep wanting people to vilify your sister and let you off the hook.  We are not talking to your sister, only you can change your behavior. A lot of people are reacting to you because you sound like a hostile, competitive, jealous person, you truly come across this way!

For the idiot(s) that thought I like to rub my privileges in life in my sister's face...My mother was receiving my mail at home after I got married and left home. She asked me how it was that my loan could have been paid off in full so quickly. I explained DH did it. My sister was  unmarried and living at home at the time and heard about it from my mom. My mom thought the world of my DH because of what he did and was talking about it to the rest of the family. Sister heard it all. So that's how she knew. You PP who doubted me could have asked for clarification before insulting me and making erroneous conclusions.

For the other idiot(s) who thought they were so clever in finding a loophole in my commentary about my family life....my father doted on me in childhood. It was my mother who emotionally abused me until we repaired our relationship after her cancer dx.

Honestly, I'm sorry that you're so unhappy with your lives that you need to bash innocent posters seeking support. Now I get why my sister is the way she is. She's not an anomaly; she's the norm. Jealousy, bitterness, and maliciousness is the norm among many women on here. And thats why you're all peeved that I exposed her disgusting character traits. She's a reflection of many of you.  [/quote][/quote]

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