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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it may just be you/your family. As an Asian person who is somewhat soft-spoken and humble, I notice that many white women are overly talkative and domineering. Talk about themselves a lot, barely let you have a word in edgewise and never ask questions that show they are interested in you. As a result, conversations are unsatisfactory. Maybe she got fed up with that.[/quote]

OP here. Totally possible! I will say that I make a super big effort to ask her questions and also an effort to shut my mouth and be more quiet. And I get a big fat nothing - no answers, no questions back to me, no interest in the kids or baseball or the weather or whatever - just nothing. So, it is hard to keep trying, honestly, to be someone she prefers to be around. [/quote]

PP here. I wonder if the white women I interact with think they’re making a “super big” effort too. Of course, I’m much more gracious than your SIL so I’m happy to ask them questions about themselves 24/7 since that’s they’re favorite topic of conversation. They just don’t get that they can reciprocate too. I think it’s just a white woman thing… they’re taught to be the center of attention[/quote]

If you are looking for racists you may want to start with the mirror.[/quote]

Anybody who calls out the problems with the majority race is racist now? Nope, this isn't how it works. You don't get to shut down the issues people bring up.[/quote]

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