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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s right. You made her move out of your house.

It’s a marketing myth that assisted living is better than living with family for the old person. It might be better for they get generation, like you, to have her move out. But it’s not better for her, and stop fooling yourself telling yourself that.

Your house plus caregiver is likely much better for her than assisted living.

Which is not to say you are obligated to continue living with her. You’re not. At all. But it’s highly unlikely this move was an improvement to her life. She’s the one living there, so she is in the best position to know. [/quote]

I have been lucky that I did not have to provide elder care for parents or ILs as they are in another country.  The truth is that elderly are happier in their own homes. Children do not want to provide care because it is tough and so they delude themselves that assisted living is better.

However, assisted living is probably better for the parents of those children who think assisted living is better. Elder abuse by adult children is a real thing.

DH and I have been Swedish Death Cleansing (we are in our 50s)  now because we would like to age in place in our SFH. Still, man proposes and God disposes. [/quote]

OMG, the know it all who admits she did not do it for her own family is here to tell us they elderly belong in their own homes. There is a special place in hell for people who give advice and are so condescending toward to the people making these tough decisions. [/quote]

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