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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t hire someone with 3 school aged kids with a long commute. Life happens and you’re going to end up letting her bring her kids frequently or she’s going to need lots of flexibility. If you need set hours and want longevity, hire someone younger or older. She sounds like she’s going to looking for a better position from day one.[/quote]

The women on this thread are so awful. Can you imagine if our employers felt that way?[/quote]

Most employers do feel that way, and in most jobs if you hire someone and the pressure of being a working single parent of three is too much and they end up stressed out or flaky and show up late or call in sick constantly, then you have to replace them and that costs…money.  Which is just money.

If you hire a nanny who is a bad fit and she comes in stressed and hits your kids or yells at them or mistreats them in any of a million tiny, invisible ways, it can be deeply harmful.  I am a nanny for a 5yo boy.  When he was 2, his prior nanny use to tell him he was bad and a boogieman would come get him if he didn’t change.  He still remembers and cries about it sometimes.

If you hire the wrong nanny and she calls in sick constantly, you may have to replace her and sever the bond your child has formed with an important caregiver.  That can be damaging too, especially if it happened multiple times.

The stakes are different in this job and I don’t blame parents for wanting the best possible chance of the right fit and the right person.  A mother of three with an hour long commute, no support system and only sporadic childcare is not it.[/quote]
So now she’s going to abuse the kids because she has a long commute? Oh, yeah, that’s a perfectly logical train of thought. Just admit that you think it’s fine to discriminate against women but for some reason it would be a problem if you or OP were discriminated against for the same reason. After all, OP has children, too, right?[/quote]

Do you think that people are either never abusive or always abusive?  That is a very black and white view and not based in reality.  All the research says that abuse happens when someone is not managing their emotions well and is in a position of power.  Nannying is an inherently emotionally demanding job.  It is incredibly difficult to remain calm, patient and loving when kids are difficult and kids will always be difficult.  People who have easy lives are more likely to be able to handle difficult kids.  Nannies are also inherently in a position of power.

So no, I would not want to trust someone who is struggling and exhausted to be in a position of power over my young children.  There is absolutely a link between being overworked and being abusive.[/quote]

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