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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t get it either OP.[b] I rolled into my beach week this year with frozen homemade meals for 4 nights - we just added bread/rice/pasta and a salad. I also made homemade muffins, coffee cake, granola, and “energy bites” for the week. [/b]I use my kids as an excuse - they are well known picky eaters - but by mid-week my MIL exclaimed how nice it was to not fuss over meals. [/quote]

Okay, you still did the same thing as the ladies in the OP, you just did it ahead of time... If you have a partner, I hoped they helped with all of that.
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My husband does all of the packing for vacation - including the kids. I just pack my outfits and makeup. I did all the baking and cooking while listening to a 4 hour work training conference call for a course I take every year. [/quote]

NP. You don’t need to defend yourself—plenty of us share the workload with our husbands and don’t feel insecure or defensive about it. I cook and DH cleans; I do laundry and DH packs for trips; each of us manages our own families (gifts, logistics, etc.). There are a thousand ways to divide labor, and as long as it feels fair and comfortable for the married couple, it’s no one else’s business.

For all OP knows, the SILs do the cooking and their husbands do more kid-watching and cleaning. That sounds fair to me. I’d much rather cook and drink wine and listen to music in the kitchen than sit on the beach with DH’s parents, who are frankly very boring people. Nice, but boring.

Mind your own business, OP. If other people are cooking, surely you are finding other ways to help: watching kids, cleaning, buying food, buying wine, whatever. As long as you are contributing to the overall work on the trip, it’s fine. Work on your own insecurity—that’s the real problem.[/quote]

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