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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Activist just did 5 posts. Good luck activist.

We have Dx, we’re sandwiches between an ASD grandfather, uncle, spouse, kid.

We know exactly how difficult they are to live with no matter what pretzel twist you want to make of yourself.

Agree, it is a total advantage in a relationship or negotiation to be an unempath and not care about anyone but yourself. Fly into an irrational rage one night, scare everyone and wake up the next morning and ask everyone if they’re want to go for a hike. Like nothing is wrong. Like no severe damage occurred.

Their special interest persona may do well but the rest of their life is a total SS. Even when they’re 40 to and still living w their mom wondering why they got fired or dumped again. And she’s wondering by why she never out her kid or now adult kid in therapy.

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I posted just above you.  I am not an activist, and I have only posted once on this thread (well, twice now).  Empathy goes both ways.  Your child isn’t “flying into an irrational rage and scaring everyone” for no reason.  No one does.  People get angry because they are hurt, someone they care about it hurt, they are ignored or demeaned, or an important goal of theirs is blocked.  It feels irrational because it isn’t obvious to you what is making them angry, but it’s worth figuring out what is important to your husband and your kid, rather than blowing them off as irrational and uncaring.  If you aren’t willing to figure this out with your kid, I can guarantee you that no one else is.  
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We have to walk around on eggshells because we don’t know what they’ve been bottling up all day at work or school. The will blow up at ANY comment or any thing at home, their safe place where they unmask and crash. [/quote]

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