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This whole thread is an insult to those who truly struggle with ASD. Some make lovely spouses. Ask me how I know. They simply struggle with social communication... but many try very hard.

If your spouse is an a**hole, he or she is an a**hole, not on the spectrum. [/quote]

And many become narcissistic to protect their ego and image and mistakes. [/quote]

Omg. Bullseye! [/quote]

You just don’t like your spouses and are slamming neurodiverse people in the process. aSD is a DEVELOPMENTAL disorder and the symptoms must appear during the early developmental period to warrant a diagnosis. It is a myth that people on the spectrum lack empathy. They don’t have the full capacity to SEE the pain in others—- but once they do they will respond as much as they can. So if your spouse was a narc who didn’t care about your emotions,  then leave it there. But if he didn’t have the ability to Recognize or process your emotions, and your calling him a narc, you are the cruel one. [/quote]

I am married to a man with undiagnosed something. I believe he is likely on the spectrum, definitely has symptoms of NPD (his mother definitely has NPD and I believe he has issues as a result). I disagree that it is "cruel" to feel negatively towards husbands who can't recognize or process emotions. If that is the case, then they should never have married or had children. IMO, they are the cruel ones. This is the case with my husband. Though he was never diagnosed, he was sent to therapists as a child, and neither he or his parents will now discuss why. I know there are people who thinking their married lives would have been different if their husbands had had interventions as children, but I believe the interventions only mask the situation until they are faced with adult situtations--specifically being husbands and fathers. To be a wife of man on the spectrum, you have to wear a suit of armor, or be miserable. There is  no other option,[/quote]

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