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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP who divorced and recommended reading up on the Cassandra syndrome:  lessons from my experience - I realized that this wasn't a "relationship" or " communication" issue that could be approached via traditional marital counseling / therapy.  I came to accept that the only possible change was for me to fully understand and accommodate his neuro-diversity and to readjust expectations of communication, emotional and physical intimacy, and to disconnect in a way that [b]his character attacks and tantrums [/b]wouldn't affect me personally.  And I decided that I could not imagine myself doing that while enjoying or even merely surviving my life.   [/quote]

Why do DHs with ASD do this?  [/quote]

At the neuropsych results conversation the PhD psychologist, who specialized in adult high functioning autism, said the anger outbursts and temper tantrums were due to (I) anxiety and being constantly overwhelmed/confused but not know it, and (II) negative and hurtful defense mechanisms developed over m at years.  Not good. 
The anti anxiety meds, if he remembers to take them, don’t really help. 
I filed for divorce, since he wouldn’t move out or mediate (lies too much). He started lashing out at the kids once they got verbal and he just couldn’t relate or connect to them. That resulted in him sending them to time out all day, shouting, physically picking them up (70pound kids and larger). Truly bizarre and abusive.  And this was after taking a 12 week parenting class.

So it was time to leave. [/quote]

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