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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about you have a second child and then he quits and stays home? That’s fair and you’d value his domestic labor, right?

[b]You don’t have a right to be the SAH one just because you have ovaries[/b].[/quote]

Obviously. That’s why after my husband had hip surgery we decided that I should be the one to stay home and recuperate. If he can stay home after my c-section, it’s only fair right? [/quote]

Complete non-sequitar. You didn’t say you want to stay home and recuperate after childbirth. You’d be getting a lot more support if you had. Recuperating from childbirth doesn’t require you to quit your job, for heavens sake. Ask me how I know.

Opting out of the workforce is just not a decision one member of the couple gets to make unilaterally. Even if that member happens to be female.  :roll:[/quote]

Ok!  Well guess what decision I do get to make?  Not to have anymore children.  [/quote]

Okay, I think you’re totally out of line about quitting your job, but here I actually agree with you 100%. You get to decide that. [b]And it’s not because of your magical sacred ovaries[/b]. He gets to decide no more children, too, even if [i]you[/i] want more.  Both members of the couple have to agree to have more kids.

And it sounds like you can’t come to a mature, mutual agreement over domestic labor, so you definitely shouldn’t have more. You both are all about the ultimatums rather than finding a mutual compromise. That’s not a great situation to bring children into. 
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Actually it is.  My husband is unable to get pregnant and give birth.  [/quote]

You are not some special unicorn. Millions of women worldwide give birth, breastfeed, raise children, and work too - even in demanding jobs. You just don’t feel like it. That’s what it comes down to. So… Own it. No one here actually cares if you have a second child or have three more. You seem to think you’ll be punishing your husband if he doesn’t let you quit by not having a second - good luck with that happy home life, lady. Sounds like he may resent you either way, even if he gives in. [/quote

Millions of women also get beaten up by their husbands.  Should OP accept that too?[/quote]

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