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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about you have a second child and then he quits and stays home? That’s fair and you’d value his domestic labor, right?

[b]You don’t have a right to be the SAH one just because you have ovaries[/b].[/quote]

Obviously. That’s why after my husband had hip surgery we decided that I should be the one to stay home and recuperate. If he can stay home after my c-section, it’s only fair right? [/quote]

Complete non-sequitar. You didn’t say you want to stay home and recuperate after childbirth. You’d be getting a lot more support if you had. Recuperating from childbirth doesn’t require you to quit your job, for heavens sake. Ask me how I know.

Opting out of the workforce is just not a decision one member of the couple gets to make unilaterally. Even if that member happens to be female.  :roll:[/quote]

Ok!  Well guess what decision I do get to make?  Not to have anymore children.  [/quote]

Okay, I think you’re totally out of line about quitting your job, but here I actually agree with you 100%. You get to decide that. [b]And it’s not because of your magical sacred ovaries[/b]. He gets to decide no more children, too, even if [i]you[/i] want more.  Both members of the couple have to agree to have more kids.

And it sounds like you can’t come to a mature, mutual agreement over domestic labor, so you definitely shouldn’t have more. You both are all about the ultimatums rather than finding a mutual compromise. That’s not a great situation to bring children into. 
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Actually it is.  My husband is unable to get pregnant and give birth.  [/quote]

Gosh, I sure hope you don’t have secondary infertility! If you’re unable to produce another biological child, back to the office with you! You’re going to have to surrender that woman card that entitles you to not be the breadwinner!

The more you post, the uglier this gets. [/quote]

All of that because I said my husband can’t get pregnant and give birth?  [/quote]

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