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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uhhh... I'm having a hard time believing that this really happened. Of course I talk to other parents, male or female. Same with my husband. But we're adults and I trust him not to pick up women at the playground and he extends that same trust to me... lol. [/quote]

OP here. I live in a very….dramatic….community. Mostly people from another culture where jealousy and control are the norm. Once I dated a hot guy (I’m divorced) and my friends’ husbands banned me from bringing him to get-togethers in case their wives, I dunno, hooked up with him in the bathroom.

So I’m not totally surprised, but just wanted a reality check that this isn’t normal. I don’t want to cause trouble for anyone but I also don’t want to be treated like I’m some temptress looking to steal husbands (that I don’t even want, ha). [/quote]

NP here.  I think it’s odd that the daughter was the enforcer.  That said, [b]I tend to err on the side of being conservative[/b] about these things and I won’t just go up to a dad and strike up a full on one on one conversation with just us.  If it’s a larger group of people no issue if they get pulled into the conversation. If it’s a one off, like you see their kid do something cute or conversely if the kid fell, I might might make a quick comment.  But I honestly don’t want to open up the potential for there to be a misunderstanding about flirting or interest with a parent of the opposite gender.  I am also cautious in general about people that I don’t know and my kids don’t know.[/quote]

You are preserving an outdated and very damaging outlook on relations between men and women by doing that. The world is a better place when fathers look after their kids, go on paternity leave, talk to other parents about their children. They cannot do that if they are limited to a small pool of other fathers. It doesn't make the job of engaged father very appealing, does it, if the women shun you just because of your sex? If you don't engage with all parents regardless of sex, all you're doing is perpetuating gender stereotypes. And we all know what that does: continued gender imbalance in the home and in the workplace, and thus continued challenges for your daughters to grow into careers and challenges for your sons to grow into engaged fathers.

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NP, but as a dad who has never cheated and never wants to be tempted to or to give my wife suspicions that I'm doing something dirty, there's an old saying that goes something like if you don't bring that around you, you've got nothing to worry about. I'm not in a position where I'm going to be completely rude or ignore another parent, but casual conversation can become a slippery slope into noticing her nice body to wondering if she was flirting, to her really flirting or whatever. If I need to talk to her about something (say we arrive at a swing at the same time so there's confusion about whose kid gets on), then we'll talk and work out our. But I'm not really interested in any rumors going around the neighborhood about how "friendly" I am. [/quote]

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