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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dh has been driving me nuts lately. It isn't new but it is worse than before.  Here are some examples. I am very frustrated and can't figure out whether he has Adhd or dementia or if his brain just short circuits. Or maybe he is just disrespect.

Dh is 50. I am 47. Our birthdays are a week apart.  He knows this. He knows my birthday. We just celebrated our birthdays. Because our birthdays are so close, sometimes we celebrate together. We are almost exactly 3 years apart. Over the last 24 years, dh often will refer to our age gap and 3 and a half years. His ex girlfriend before me was 3.5 years younger than him. Over the years I have told him nicely that we ARE THREE years apart not 3.5 and he must be mixing me up with the ex.  Since then, he has on several occasions said we are  3.5 years apart. He said it in front of his mom who looked puzzled and my family. They all know our age gap. Recently dh mentioned to our son that we are 3.5 years apart. I said no, you must be mixing me up with your ex girlfriend. I said was she 3.5 years younger. Dh said no. I said YES she was. He admitted I was right. Most of the conversation did not happen on front of our adult son. Anyway he admitted he was used to saying 3.5 years apart when he dated his ex 25 years ago then that number stuck in his head. He has no idea why this upsets me. The issue is when I nicely tell him, he doesn't remember.  When I yell and get furious he will probably remember not to do it again.

Other things:
He tells an embarrassing story about me ( related to me serving him queationabke food which he says has strengthened his stomach so much that he can never get sick now). He has told this story to every guest we had.  Often repeating it at the next event. Initially I was a good sport but grew tired of it. Right before guests were coming over, i asked him to not tell that story, he agreed...well he told it.

When we go to parties on Saturdays...often I work Sundays and I am totally ok to stay late at the party. When he gets bored he uses the excuse that I have to work tomorrow when I am fine to stay. I don't like to discuss that I work the next day at parties because it leads to everyone feeling sorry for me and then leads to work talk  which I dont want. Dh knows I dont want to leave early.  So, i tell him not to use that as an excuse, he agreed and he did it anyway.  I asked why. He said he was bored and that was the best excuse he could come up with.

Yesterday, youngest son was driving and dh was horsing around with him while he was driving. I said pls dont touch him, he is driving and you are distracting him. He agreed and 5 minutes later he did it again. It was like he totally forgot our conversation

Comments? Would you find this frustrating? 
Why does he never get stuff unless I yell and make a big fight. That's not how I like to operate.

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Okay, serious questions. How long has he been like this?  Did you just notice this change in behavior recently?  Did he have COVID? If so, have you looked into covid long hauler memory / cognitive issues?

DH and I both had covid last year and I have noticed strange behaviors in him since then as well as some difficulties with brain fog myself. He seems to have difficulty concentrating / staying focused, short term memory issues, etc.. We were driving down the road and he drives right past the exit we lived off of for 11 years. Last week he heads out to the store for something and gets sidetracked with something else, later returns without picking up the thing he initially went out for.  It's usually stupid stuff and initially I just waved it off as just being stressed and overwhelmed. The more I have read, the more I believe it's the brain fog reported by many long-haulers. Good news is, it should improve overtime.[/quote]

No Covid.
He has been like this for years.[/quote]

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