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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who say "no" are delusional.

I don't know any family where having a second kid didn't impact the first one.

They definitely get less attention from parents. Most drop out of some of their activities or never do the ones they wanted to because driving them to those is hard with a little kid in tow.  There is less money to spend, so they miss expensive camps, expensive activities, sometimes they lose private school education.  I could go on and on.  [/quote]

But are those expensive activities what really make for a deeply fulfilling and loving childhood? I would argue no. If the question is whether a second reduces the amount of time parents have for a first child, of course unequivocally no one would argue against that. But I guess we all view what is a “positive” or considered an “impact” for kids differently and for me, those things aren’t necessarily it so aren’t a huge factor in the equation. My second is a newborn and woof, getting used to the new balance is hard but I still think even my 3 year old would say it’s already been net positive for him. A long road to go to see if that sticks and it’s possible it won’t depending on second kids needs, but he adores his very colicky little brother! [/quote]

Ha this is exactly us, down to the same ages and the colic too ;)[/quote]

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