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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you think he is on drugs, and that's why he is avoiding doctor?[/quote]
+1 this has all the hallmarks of a closeted addict [/quote]

I think so too.  [/quote]

Op here. It’s definitely not that. We have been home together 24/7 during COVID. He has zero energy and doesn’t do anything except his part time job. He never leaves the house. Neither of us drinks any alcohol either.[/quote]

How many hours a week does he work? Does he lack the energy to do more?[/quote]

Op here. DH is truly a genius-he’s figured out how to work about 15 hours a week and makes $140k/year. But the thing is-historically he’s actually been more functional when he’s had more demanding jobs. He requires structure. He works from home full time now (pre-and post-pandemic), but he did better when he had to go to an office everyday. So while this seems like a unicorn dream job (it would be for me), I feel it actually fuels  the problem.[/quote]

How much do you make? Sounds like you wouldn't have to pay him alimony, or not much at least. Can he afford the mortgage on his own if you move out with the kids? You'd have to be careful about that though--you'd need a legal separation agreement so that it doesn't affect any future custody rulings (ie you're not allowed to take his kids away without a formal agreement).[/quote]

Op here. I make 50% more than him. His income only hit this level in the last year. Neither of us can afford the house alone.[/quote]

Since he's gainfully employed, you should not have to pay him anything. In fact, if you're the primary with the kids he'd have to kick in some there. Of course all joint assets would be split down the middle. Sounds like it would be well worth it![/quote]

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