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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - you can not, and you should not do anything. If you want to *once* ask your own son, for his advice, that would be ok. And, with him, leave it at, "if there's anything we can ever do to improve the relationship, please let us know".

But once. You say this once. Otherwise, you would be wise to not cloud your *ok* relationship with your DIL with negative thoughts.

(btw, she doesn't have to like you.You need to accept that. Not saying she doesn't. But she certainly won't grow to like you any better if you lay expectations on her)

I'm your age, btw.[/quote]

I agree with this approach.  It is reasonable to ask the question, then actually listen to the response.

I also agree that it would be wise not to be negative about DIL but that can be quite a daunting task. Especially if the DIL is making her point by fawning over OP's relatives in front of her. That's a bit "nose-rubbing" IMO. [/quote]

NP. Wow, there’s a reach. Giving Aunt Alice a warm hug and chatting with her politely during Easter brunch is “fawning,” and deliberately so, just to hurt MIL? I can’t even believe someone’s mind would go there.

It sounds like…she’s an introvert! As someone else mentioned upthread, it’s easy to be warm and chatty for, say, a four-hour stretch at a Fourth of July BBQ. But when you’re on Day 4 of a houseguest visit, yeah…a girl just needs some down time, you know? [/quote]

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