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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has ADHD and he could not empty a dishwasher and watch a toddler at the same time. He is however highly functional at work. People are wired differently.[/quote]

Interesting that your DH is "wired" to be able to multitask and do his job properly, but somehow magically not "wired" to watch a child while doing some very light cleaning. It's funny how many men are just magically not "wired" for these things, and yet very functional in their work life. Do they all have this very specific version of ADHD?  :roll: [/quote]

I have this same issue with my DH and have had the same response. His honest answer was that what I am asking him to do at home isnt important . Point blank. He views work as important and that comes first. Its money and thats his role as a provider.

Weve had plenty of interesting talks about this because 1) youre not the sole contributor to our lifestyle or bank account 2) he makes 1.5x what I do but when we average out costs for student loans, higher insurance for men, medical costs, etc. its only 1.2x my salary comparatively. 3) I am primary on household management and child-related stuff 4) my job has way more flexibility and allows us to minimize using leave and/or during COVID we were actually able to keep both of our jobs

He grew up seeing his father do X/Y/Z but that warped his sense of responsibility in a household because he thinks only in terms of X/Y/Z. Division of responsibilities works great when there is one working spouse and one non-working spouse because the areas of responsibility are clear. Unless you can outsource cleaning/cooking/childcare because you both make a crap ton of money, division doesnt really work because SOMEONE is having to manage. [/quote]

And see, this is where things would come to a screeching halt in my household. I would be willing to listen and perhaps concede that some stuff I care about doesn’t matter. But WTF to acting like all home front activities are too unimportant for the big, bad wheeler dealer. I certainly would take a major step back on anything that benefitted him.[/quote]

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