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[quote=Anonymous]OP, your posts make me wonder if you ever learned about "I statements": "I feel upset that you broke the watering can, which was important to me." (Instead of: "Are you mad at me?") "I'm frustrated that you're not washing the vegetables." (Instead of: "You should wash the vegetables." "Thomas Gordon developed the concept of an “I” statement in the 1960s and contrasted these statements to “you” statements, which shift blame and attributions to the listener. “I” statements enable speakers to be assertive without making accusations, which can often make listeners feel defensive. An “I” statement can help a person become aware of problematic behavior and generally forces the speaker to take responsibility for his or her own thoughts and feelings rather than attributing them—sometimes falsely or unfairly—to someone else." (https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/i-message) [/quote]
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