Reply to Minimal amount of secret drinking

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Minimal amount of secret drinking"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What’s interesting, and very sad, is that if you’re an alcoholic reading this you deeply relate to what your husband is doing. I’m not calling him an alcoholic, but I’m an alcoholic in recovery and the secret drinking, the guilt about doing it, the lack of sticking to his own plan about how much he’ll drink, the weird uneasy feeling that something isn’t right but not necessarily alcohol even while alcohol is there and a continuing concern, the change of personality he gets when drinking.

Nothing you can do about his drinking. Really, literally, you don’t cause him to drink and you can’t make him stop. Go to Al-Anon. It will help you live a sane life even if you’re living with an alcoholic who is drinking. And it will help you see your choices.

Or listen to Al Anon speakers on YouTube.[/quote]

I am a PP who responded several times in the first few pages and agree with this.

OP, you are only describing what youve caught him doing. He's probably doing more than you are aware of and hiding it well.

As someone who went from normal social drinking to straight abuse and alcoholism, I can relate to everything you are describing. When I told my spouse and some family members how much I drank, they couldnt believe it. Many of you dismissing or minimizing the situation need to get it out your head that problem drinking is just a few more extra drinks than what your limit is.

Again, I will not pretend to know what the extent of OPs husband is, but I promise you the signs of hiding and guilt are not because shes a nag. Its behavior of someone at, or approaching the stages where it will get worse. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics