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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Empathetic PP here and I work with SN children. A very common statement in our field is that the biggest handicap the children have are the PARENTS. Life is hard for everybody and just because our challenges are different it doesn't mean people out there can't understand or relate to your reality.
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Ah yes, the Special Needs worker who thinks that she knows more than the parents do about their own children and their disabilities.  Truly a delight to deal with.  Yes, just the other day the special needs aide at my daughter's kindergarten informed me that "in a few years, this will all be a haze...she will be running all over place, talking like crazy."  Yeah.  I guess it's just my big ole bad attitude that's holding her back.[/quote]

She was trying to be kind, PP. I don't know why you interpreted her comment as an insult to your parenting. Again, have a little empathy for those who are trying to reach out but don't always say the right thing.[/quote]

Not the PP you're quoting but someone familiar with these scenarios.  The SN aide may have been trying to be kind but, like Special Needs worker, she was really showing her ignorance.  These statements are more typical of someone who has no experience with SN kids.  Statements like this are double edged.  They may seem encouraing but also indicate the parent is over-reacting or reading too much into something.  Considering Special Needs worker and her co-workers feel the biggest handicap to the children are their parents, I'd be insulted, too.[/quote]

Yes, thank you, exactly.  It's not an insult on my parenting, it's just totally inane and annoying to hear this coming from someone who also thinks she knows more than I do.[/quote]

Then, really, there is nothing anyone can say to you. They are "ignorant", "insulting", etc., even when they are CLEARLY trying to be kind or show some empathy.

You sound like you need counseling. Maybe it would give you some perspective on how you interact with other people. Because, you do not get a pass for speaking to and about people the way you are just because of your child's SN. Flame away.[/quote]

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