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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a lot of it is being a well-rounded, well-developed person. Someone who:

- takes care of their health, but isn’t obsessed with dieting or working out
- has a good job they enjoy but also has work-life balance and isn’t always stressed from work
- dresses well without being high maintenance, has their own style
- is open and easy to talk to, without treating dates like therapy sessions
- has personality, is fun, has interests and hobbies beyond just drinking or watching Netflix, has friends
- healthy relationship with sex, no hangups, but doesn’t push for it too early

I’m female, and those are all qualities I look for in men, so I try to exemplify them myself. I’ve found I get higher quality men that are willing to commit when my life feels more well-rounded and fuller. [/quote]

+1 plus a few other things mentioned in prior posts IMO[/quote]
Eh, there are totally exercised obsessed people who end up with other exercised obsessed people.  Or people with no style who either end up with someone who dresses them or someone who doesn't care about style. This list is just your list.

My personal take is that a big part of it is being flexible and not expecting to find a perfect person.  Don't compromise on core values, but I certainly married an engineer with no style.  We have a great relationship.  I buy his clothes and his lack of style has zero impact on our relationship.  Maybe that wouldn't work for you, but I'm sure there are things I value that are less important to you.  My friends who are still single in their late 30s all have some hang up and are often looking for the lead from a romantic comedy rather than a real person with both strengths and flaws.[/quote]

Your comment is like a few others in addition to this post. Both things can be true.[/quote]

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