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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A rift between my brother and I made me so sad when I realized I was having a boy. It was a horrible way to feel, and I should not have imposed all the dysfunction on an innocent child, who has grown up to be one of the kindest and most thoughtful kids I know. Since then, things between my brother and I have improved, and we are close once more.

You can break patterns. [/quote]

Not the point of the thread, but thanks, PP, because this resonated with me. I was completely agnostic about the gender of my first child, and she turned out to be a girl. But then I [b]really[/b] wanted another girl for our second child, and was sad when it was a boy. Why? Because I (a woman) only had a brother, and while we would say we love each other if you pressed us, we have never been close and are just fundamentally different people, despite being very close in age. Almost certainly unfairly, I felt that two of the same gender would be close in a way that me and my brother never were. But you're right, it's not appropriate to impose or assume that dynamic for my kids.[/quote]

Can confirm that having a same sex sibling does not mean you will be close or similar to them.[/quote]

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