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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That sounds really, really hard. For you and for your daughter. You haven’t said whether you work, OP. Do you? I think the combination of deadbeat dad plus successful stepfather who has kids he takes care of, and also being excluded herself, is a lot for your daughter to deal with. Even if you think there is entitlement in the mix. How much do you have put aside for her education, and how much will she have to take out in loans? Does she have a chance at merit aid or some kind of scholarship for an activity or interest? What kind of school is she interested in? A small liberal arts college, an ivy, or what?[/quote]

OP here. I do work, in non profit admin. I have a good job but I don’t make a ton. DD and I were on our own for most of her life. She is as 12/almost 13 when I remarried.

I have 30k for her, which I think is pretty good considering the circumstances! I’m proud of that, I don’t care what people on this board say. However it’s a pittance compared to the schools she wants (Williams, Swarthmore, Vassar, Etc.)

My H and I keep our finances separate, especially when it comes to the kids. It’s just the way we’ve always done things. [/quote]

So, you got married for the stable roof over your head basically, and you work low paying job, KNOWING your DD needs a hell of a lot more than 30k to go to ANY college.  I think you make poor financial and marital decisions.

Let's look at financial - do you even know how much aid DD could get from these schools?  Have you used schools net cost calculators on their websites?  Spoken to financial aid there?  Looked over FAFSA?  Done anything but lay on your back and say go to UMD?  Gone to scholarships.com or scholarships360.org and start writing essays?[/quote]

Lol, isn’t this something the daughter should be doing???

My god, no wonder my assistants still consider themselves kids at 26. It’s because of parents like you.[/quote]

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