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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well OP I'll give you the perspective from the wife's part.

My H and I had a huge, terrible argument a few mos ago. Nearly ended us. That night he began reaching out to an old girlfriend. Mentioned nothing about us, our marriage, etc. Just "wanted to connect".

I found it, confronted him, he tried to pull the "it was just saying hello" excuse and I just said stop. Women all know what this crap means. We're in counseling, unclear where things will go.

But for you, know that there's likely a story like this behind the "miss talking" email. There's always an agenda. So write back if you like, but the fact that you're in a place to do so doesn't mean he is. And likely he's in the same place as my H, which isn't good. Who knows, my H may be on the market shortly. And if so, you're welcome to him. [/quote]

It does not sound as if you have any commitment to making your counseling a possible success.  I am sure you can make the counseling a failure if you try hard enough.

Sucks for your innocent kids though.[/quote]

Oh yes, I'm clearly the villain here. My disappointment that my husband's strategy of handling conflict is reaching out to an ex is clearly the problem, not, you know, the reaching out to an ex part.

As for the kids, they're why I called a counselor and not a moving truck. Nice try though.

Back to you OP, of course you deserve to know the emailing guy's story. Just ask, it's ok. If it's above board he'll be straight with you. I bring up this anecdote with my husband because these out of the blue messages often have a story behind them. Sounds like you've had enough of your own drama and don't need someone else's. Hopefully his intentions are good. Best of luck to you.
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